What if the prayer was never meant to change the outcome?
18 days ago • 3 min readHi Reader - I've really been struggling emotionally these past few weeks with some of the horrific events happening in the world. Tragedy has a way of asking us to reckon — with what we believe about humanity, about life, about ourselves. It also invites us to check in with the state of our own heart. And often, it stirs up old patterns. Especially the ones we reach for when we’re desperate to feel safe. For most of my life, in moments of intense fear or uncertainty, I would pray to a God of...
READ POST"If you judge something, you're stuck with it."
about 1 month ago • 1 min readHi Reader - My mentor, Alyssa Nobriga, often says something that stops me in my tracks every time: "If you judge something, you're stuck with it." Let that sink in. 🙂 The First 40 Years… and the Next I feel like my first 40 years of life were all about learning judgment—from culture, from media, from religion, from family, from my ego, from fear. And now, in this second half of life, I’m learning how to let go of all those judgements. I’m 44 now, and here’s what I can say with confidence:...
READ POSTThe Shortcut to Acceptance
about 1 month ago • 2 min readHi Reader - Acceptance has been one of the greatest healing decisions I’ve ever made. So why do we resist it? Why Do We Resist Acceptance? Here are some of the common stories I tell myself: To accept would mean I support, agree with, or condone the situation. To accept means someone doesn’t get the punishment they deserve—including me. To accept means giving in, being walked all over, or staying silent when I should speak up. But here’s the irony: It’s not acceptance that causes those...
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about 1 month ago • 2 min readHi Reader - A Thought That Changed My Life Three years ago, I had a thought that changed my life. At the time, I was at a peak of desperation, desperately wanting my circumstances to change. Things in my personal life felt completely out of control. Someone I loved was struggling in ways I just wanted so badly to “fix” inside of them… yet I couldn’t. And the challenge felt unending. I was really losing hope that it would ever resolve for the better. While walking out in nature one day, a...
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