Hi Reader -
Acceptance has been one of the greatest healing decisions I’ve ever made.
So why do we resist it?
Why Do We Resist Acceptance?
Here are some of the common stories I tell myself:
To accept would mean I support, agree with, or condone the situation. To accept means someone doesn’t get the punishment they deserve—including me. To accept means giving in, being walked all over, or staying silent when I should speak up.
But here’s the irony:
It’s not acceptance that causes those fears—it’s resistance.
Acceptance Is Not Approval
Acceptance is simply the opposite of resistance.
Instead of judging, it’s withholding judgment. Instead of closing, it’s opening Instead of shutting down your heart or mind, it’s gently opening them. Instead of closing off to love, it’s choosing to open to love.
Acceptance doesn’t mean turning a bad thing into a good thing.
It simply means we stop fighting and resisting—so we can navigate from a peaceful, clear place.
It means we’re willing to let go of the emotional charge resistance brings.
Because when we’re resisting, fighting, and condemning…
We aren’t open.
We’re closed off. And from that closed place, we lose access to love, clarity, and wisdom.
A Shortcut to Acceptance
My friend Kristi often invites me to enter acceptance with this powerful practice:
Name the emotion.
And then complete this sentence:
“It’s okay that I feel _____________.”
“It’s okay that I feel _____________.”
This is my shortcut to acceptance.
It’s simple, powerful, and immediate.
I practice awareness by naming the thought or feeling. I practice acceptance by telling myself: “It’s okay to feel or think __________.”
It’s okay.
It’s okay.
It’s okay.
Let the Charge Decrease
Telling yourself it’s okay to feel something isn’t permission to stay stuck—it’s the key to getting unstuck .
It immediately softens the intensity and opens your mind and heart.
Here’s what it can sound like:
It’s okay that I feel mad. It’s okay that I feel betrayed. It’s okay that I feel overlooked. It’s okay that I feel jealous. It’s okay that I don’t like this other person. It’s okay that I lost my temper. It’s okay that I said the wrong thing.
You might think this would intensify the problem, but it doesn’t.
It lowers the emotional charge and keeps you open to love .
It creates the brain space to respond with clarity and compassion—so you can use your agency to move forward with intention.
I now offer this practice to you:
Name the emotion or thought. Tell yourself, "It's okay that I think or feel _________".
Come Practice with Me – September 18
If you’re longing for your own supportive experience of Radical Acceptance , join me on
Thursday, September 18, from 6:30–8:30 PM
for a Creation Circle + Breathwork session devoted to this beautiful practice.
If you show up fully, I promise you’ll walk away with more peace, clarity , and spaciousness around whatever you're currently resisting.
✨ [Reserve Your Spot Here]
You Are Deeply Loved
Delightfully,
brooke
P.S. Can’t make it live? No worries—I’ll send out a replay that’s available for 21 days . That said, I so hope you’ll prioritize coming live so I can interact and engage with you personally. I’d love to connect.