Are you in contraction? This always happens right before expansion...
Published 2 months ago • 3 min read
Hi Reader -
Every time I am about to make a big financial decision (especially when it has to do with investing in myself), like clockwork, I always close up.
I tell myself I don't need anyone else's help.
My mind tells me I already know everything.
And I separate myself by thinking I can do it alone.
This is especially potent when I've experienced some type of inspiration from learning from someone who holds the vision for a better pathway. I start to feel the energy of what is possible and think I can hold onto that feeling and make the changes solo... not realizing that the only reason I think I can do it now is because I had just been held by someone who has already done it. Momentum comes from keeping the connection, not severing it.
Or sometimes, it's the opposite, and I start to close up out of the fear of failure.
"Nothing has worked in the past. This time is no different."
"It may work for everyone else, but it won't work for me."
"I'm just not in a place where I can commit."
Or sometimes, it's downright distraction.
I know I need to change something in my life, but I don't want to admit it. So I'm going to close my eyes, plug my ears, and sing "tra, la, la," to drown out the little voice that is telling me I need to pay attention.
These are all signs of a dysregulated nervous system.
Regardless of whether I choose a yes or no to something, I'm now learning that the best yes or no is when that choice is made from a sense of safety.
Holy smokes, how I would have avoided SO MUCH SUFFERING if I had learned how to listen and communicate with my nervous system earlier. Especially for making decisions. And truth be told, I have made some very costly decisions because I didn't have a clue about what truly feeling safe in my body felt like. My decisions came from the head, not the body.
Safety can't be found in the head.
Safety is only found in the body.
Read that again.
There are things I have said yes to that made sense in the mind, but in my body, I was fawning to please others.
There are things I have said no to that would have really helped me, but I didn't think I deserved it. I was in flight and ran away.
I was in my head. And I definitely wasn't feeling safe.
I think back on all the hard lessons life has taught me (which of course I wouldn't do differently because I learned important lessons), nonetheless, when I look back knowing what I know now, I see why things got hard. I understand the cause and effect my nervous system played, and how not having awareness or tools brought a greater impact of suffering.
Your ability to listen and work with your nervous system is one of life's greatest assets. It covers every area of life. Relationships, Money, Health, Spirituality, all of it. It is the most powerful system I know for communication. Isn't it amazing that it is encoded into your very own divine body?
Here's a secret: Contraction always comes before expansion.
Mother Nature shows us this over and over again. It's part of the cycle of growth. I was stunned when I saw this Instagram Reel showing The Dahlia Effect. In this 10-second fast motion video, it shows how the Dahlia contracts and expands, contracts and expands, in the cycle of growth.
We are the same.
If you are ready to expand into a greater relationship with money and a healed nervous system, don't be surprised if you are currently in a contraction....
It always precedes the expansion that can come next...
But we still have to make a choice.
If you feel ready to commit to embodying more safety and healing your nervous system, I invite you to join me in Kate Northrup's Relaxed Money program. I'll be there right alongside you. And if you want even more support, you can join with my affiliate link to receive up to $1,000 worth of extra bonuses I'm offering to complement your experience.
Have questions? DM me on Instagram (send me a voice note even!) and I promise to respond.
You are loved!
Delightfully,
brooke
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